Resolutions for 2014

Today's blog post is by a guest writer - my very own, beloved Kevin.  It's so smart and insightful - hope you enjoy it!

Most people fail to reach their fitness goals because they work too hard! Hi Everyone,  This email may seem a little off topic, but as many of you know I have worked as a personal trainer for over 20 years.  Each january I see people put great effort into reaching their fitness goals.  Unfortunately, the vast majority will quit before February 1st.  The great con of the fitness industry is that when you fail to meet your goals, you are at fault.  The truth is that the information you are using is inaccurate and the basic beliefs you have about fitness are incorrect. If you are working hard toward changing your body please read this email before you give up. Best of luck in the New Year. Warm Regards, Kevin

New Year's Resolutions Hi Everyone, Today is Wednesday January 16, 2014.  The gyms will be packed this morning.  and for another 10 days. You will struggle to find a treadmill or bike for your workout, and you will encounter many desperate people that will run you over to get that treadmill before you do. Do not fear.  This is part of a predictable phenomenon that occurs every year.  The first 3 weeks of January the gyms are packed.  Week 4 you can have any piece of cardio equipment that you want.  Many of the consistent exercisers that train year round, take the first 3 weeks of January off and wait for the chaos to subside.  What happens to all those people? Are you one of these people. This email is simple to give you enough information to get you past the 3 week mark and maybe even help you reach your goals this year.

95% of People Fail! Here is the most important part of what I have learned in my 22 years of personal training.  Most people fail to reach their goals beacuse they try too hard!  There is no shortage of will power, motivation, desire, etc... What people lack is good information. Eat Less and Exercise more has a 95% failure rate! Simple Math: Leads to Starving Calories consumed v. Calories burned is biology not math. If you eat less calories your body will instintively burn less calories. And if you continue to eat less and workout more, the body will sacrifice muscle mass to hold onto fat stores.  Losing muscle tissue ensures future weight gain. If you are like most people you set fitness goals for 2012, 2013, and 2014. You have a real desire to make a change, and you can push through the pain to reach your goal.  But even with massive effort and tremendous desire, you are starting lose the battle.  At this point in January most of you will find that you can answer yes to3 out of 4 of these questions.  Is it getting harder to get out of the bed in the morning? Are you having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep? Are you hungry all the time? Are you starting to dread your next workout? If you answered Yes to 3 of these questions you are about to start the last week of your 2014 New Years Resolution program and you will soon be back to your usual routine of life but this time 2 lbs heavier. Most nutrition or exercise professionals will tell you it is simple math. Less calories in more calories out and you will lose weight.  Unfortunately, that is not true.  Fortunately, the winning formula means you don’t have be hungry and you don’t have to workout until you can barley move.

You are working too hard! Here are the common pitfalls that keep people from reaching their fitness goals: Doing what worked for someone else:  Most people that have been successful at reaching their goals don't know why they were successful. and almost all of them forget how little exercise the did in the beginning.  Stop looking at everyone else and listen to your body. Will Power – Most people think they are not doing enough, becasue they don't see quick results.  Intruth most people are doing too much and can not sustain the effort long term. Setting the wrong Goals – How your body will look.  Focus on what your body can do.  Example I will lose 10 lbs by Feb 1.  Don't set results goals set habit goals. Better goal: I will lift weights once a week, run /jog /bike /Zumba once a week, and stretch once a week.  Starting where you left off – I ran a 6 min/mile in college so I will start there.  Stop telling your body what it should do and pay attention to what it can do. Exercising too Much  - More is not better.  Exercise breaks down the body, it is not until after recovery that the body is stronger.  Simple formula exercise and recover.  If you feel like you can't get out of bed to go to the gym, then don't go!  Listen to your body.  Take a day off just remember to go back! Starving – Starving is just starving.  It puts your body into crisis mode where it will estroy muscle for energy, so it can hold fat in case the perceived famine continues.   Ultimatley starving increases your body weight. What can you do to make it past the first 3 weeks of January! Make habit goals that are easy to achieve People who are the most out of shape, need to start the slowest.  That could be as little as 12 min 3 times a week as a goal.  Yes, these first workouts will be too easy to see any real change, but the change is happening at the cellular level and preparing your body to withstand more exercise in the future. Eat real food:  Your foods should have fat in them.  Fat fills you up and supports the hormones that heal your body after exercise.  Don't choose a food because it is FREE of "Sugar free," "Fat Free,"   Real foods have fats, carbs and protein. Teach your body to use fat as a fuel. This is a balance between eating fats and avoiding sugars and grains. And using a moderate level of exercise to use fats as your primary fuel source during exercise.  Don't exercise so intensely that you are gasping for air.  gasping means that your oxygen delivery system is at it's max and you will have to change fuels. Don't use sports bars or drinks: drink or eat sugar while exercising, or the body will turn off the fat burning system and use the simple carbs available. Do Strength train:  the body will build muscle and that muscle will burn fat ultimately. RECOVER: between workouts

Inspire.

Glen Rock GOTR Fall 2013 Team

Never thought I'd someday be coaching someone else to run - seems like an oxymoron but it's true.  Well, not exactly true - I'm not coaching at the Olympic Training Center but I am "Head Coach" for my chapter of Girls on the Run.  Now technically Girls on the Run is NOT a running program but I am a coach, none the less.

Girls on the Run is Designed to allow every girl to recognize her inner strength, the Girls on the Run curriculum inspires girls to define their lives on their own terms.  Running is secondary to the lessons helping them to have positive emotional, social, mental and physical development.  Participants explore and discuss their own beliefs around experiences and challenges girls face at this age.  They also develop important strategies and skills to help them navigate life experiences.  

There are no words for the amount of joy coaching brings me =)

This was the first season for GOTR in Glen Rock and it exceeded my expectation beyond belief.  The best part is that no girl is ever turned away if they cannot afford the $165 registration fee to be apart of the program. This is why SoleMates was started .  SoleMates is a program to raise scholarship money for every girl to be able to participate and become a Girl on the Run.  No girl is ever turned away if they cannot afford it because of SoleMates.

My goal is to inspire as many girls as possible to believe in themselves. I know from first-hand knowledge that Girls on the Run is an amazing program to get girls to do just that - believe in themselves.  Running the NYC Half Marathon as a SoleMate and your donations will help us to inspire many NYC girls that so desperately need it!  Here are some stats:

$35 can sponsor a pair of running shoes for one girl.

$50 can fun a pair of running shoes and program snack for one girl.

$140 can fund running shoes for four girls.

$250 can support a full season scholarship for one girl.

$1,000 can support full season scholarships for four girls.

DONATE HERE

BEST RUNNING SIGN EVER!

dare i say it...

dare i say it...(i think i like running) but don't tell anyone.  Today might have been the straw that broke the camels back - I've been growing to like it a little more with each passing week but today, today was the day I felt like I really like it.  Perhaps even loved it.  Maybe it was the track - there is something about the sound of the track.  Maybe bc my foot hitting the track is louder than my panting or the pounding of my heart.  For some reason today just felt good.  Perhaps the real reason is bc I'm getting better - I never thought I'd get faster and now I am...everyday it seems I get a little bit faster and I like it.  I can admit it - I'm shallow like that.  Getting better at something makes me feel better.  Everyday I say to my Girls on the Run, "it's not about how fast you go or about winning it's just about moving forward - just like in life, just keep moving forward".  However, after 4 years of being in this triathlon game - just moving forward is not enough for me (don't tell my girls).  I've been so frustrated that I wasn't getting faster and then finally something clicked and I AM getting faster.  Hot damn - it's true: you get out of it what you put into it...who knew?

I started out in triathlon already loving cycling, now the running has come...oh swimming, my swimming - when will you come around??

Speed (blog loaded with boring stats).

When I first joined Team  Lipstick in 2010, I never, ever, ever thought the day would come that I would not only enjoy running (enjoy might be a little strong but go with it) but that I would also see results in my own performance.  I assure you, you've never met a slower, run-hating, complaining miserable member of a triathlon team in all of your life.  But finally something clicked last year and continues to click this year - the only way to get better is to work harder.  This year I've been working hard on endurance and speed - both are getting better and I look forward to continue to crush my PRs with each race.  

This morning at practice we did 1 mile repeats - we do these once a month.  Each month I am completely nervous that there is just no way I can improve.  Yet each month I shock myself and get faster - I keep wondering at what point is that the pinnacle of speed for me?  Thankfully I haven't gotten there yet.  I'm now on a mission to continue to crush my times and going further.

Here are some run results from the past 4 years of my races:

Diamond Girl Triathlon (4 mile run) - August 2010

 Dottie's House Triathlon (5K run) - October 2010

Bassman Triathlon (5k run) - May 2011

Opt-In 5K April 2012

Cupid's Chase 5K March 2013

Arboretum 5K - September 2013

Here are the results from the 1 Mile repeats - one from last month, the other from this morning.  It's amazing what you can do when you set your mind to it.  Now if I could set my mind to folding the mass amounts of laundry piled up in this house, I'd be perfect!

Goal Crushing!

"Goals that are not written down are just wishes"

I've had these 2 goals for a few months and finally hit them this week after a lot of hard work.  One was weight/nutrition based and one was speed/performance based.

It's been 6 weeks since I read "Fitness Confidential" and completely changed the way I eat and think about food/nutrition/fueling.  Today marks 6 weeks of NO COKE which I never thought was possible (do you know how hard it is to eat a hamburger without a coke??).  I still crave it but it's getting progressively easier with each passing week.  I've eaten more than I ever have, all great food not crap (for the first time in my life!) and feel great but the day finally came when the scale hit a number I didn't think was possible.  I didn't change my eating to lose weight - I changed it to fuel better and recover better for triathlon and to get off of the sugar roller coaster I've been on my entire life.  Weight loss was just a nice little perk!  Hitting my goal weight was #1 crushed goal of the week.

Then there's the speed/performance goal.  I never feel like I'm getting any faster in triathlon, no matter how hard I work. I finally put that thought aside and have been pushing myself (more like being pushed by my coach and team!).  Today was the day to put my money where my mouth is.  For most runners a 5k is a piece of cake and breaking thirty minutes is mindless but for me it's been a struggle. It might even seem silly to most that this is even a goal for someone.  I did it once last year and have not been able to accomplish it again.  It's the goal that keeps eluding me and I know the reason is all in my head.  Clearly my body is capable but it never seems to happen.  The past few 5K's that I've run have all been so close 30:55 or 31:02 but never UNDER that 30:00 mark.  At the last race when I watched the clock tick over to read "30:00" I screamed a very bad profanity very loud in front of many children.  I felt bad when I got home but I was so damn frustrated at the time so if it was you and/or your children - I apologize.  My truck driver mouth gets me in trouble often.  Today was the day I've been working for all year - mile repeats, hill repeats, getting up at 4am, driving to NYC to train - today was the day to make that all worth it.  And it worked!  I somehow convinced my friend, Jess, to join me for the run.  For the first 1.5 miles she paced me, unbeknownst to her - which kept me moving at my goal pace. The first mile came and my time was 9:07 - right on track for a PR, just couldn't let up.  I was laser focused, didn't really say hi to anyone, hardly spoke, eyes straight ahead - this had to be my day and it was!  Finish time was 28:20 with a pace of 9:07 - I am over the moon and ready to get it under 27 minutes next time.  When I remember where I started and where I am now I'm shocked, amazed, proud, humbled and just so damn happy!  IT CAN BE DONE!

 Deihdra Miller 39 F  28:20.36  9:07  F30-39:14/32     53.65 

Don't Stop. Won't Stop. 

Happy Race @ West Point

I LOVE race morning sunrise!

This might be the first time I finished a race and was really content - I had a great time racing and didn't beat myself up at the end for doing poorly. Perhaps I've grown....let's not get ahead of ourselves here.  West Point is a sprint triathlon.  But hell hath no fury like a race run by the Army that people call "just a sprint".  This race is not easy - there isn't one flat surface in the entire race, except the swim but even that  had a curve to it!  The swim was beautiful - I had the lovely but very fast Lesley in my wave so we got to hang in the corral while waiting for the start of our wave.  The water was calm and beautiful but the bike was hills, hills and more hills - at least some of them went down.  The downhills were awesome and a great way to pick up some time that I lost on the damn uphills.  Then saw the beloved Coach Beth at the bottom of the steepest hill, just in time to climb, climb, climb to transition.  Once out on the run you go straight up hill but I just chugged along.  Half way through this guy ran with me - no idea why, I think he was bored.  We chatted the entire time (no one tell Matt that I was able to talk during the run - I really was doing my best!).  At least with someone to chat with and keep me laughing it kept me from walking and I was able to move along, not fast but still moving.  The highlight of being in the second wave is that only Lesley finished before me and we got to watch the rest of the team finish.  Even though everyone races with a timing chip and they all beat my time it's still nice to not be the last athlete out on the course!  And even more fun to watch everyone else finish.

Custom Team Lipstick rainbow loom bracelets!

Being on a team makes a huge differene while racing - you see all of your friends that you normally see at the butt ass crack of dawn 2-3 times a week.  These are the peeps you see at your worst and yet they keep coming back. I'm not sure I know what these women look like outside of bike shorts and a hat - I might pass them on the street if I saw them in "real" clothes but on the course they are the best thing to see!  Thank you all for racing with me and making my race so much fun - I can't imagine racing without you!

Note the sign in the back "WITH HONOR WE LEAD"

Team Bonding in the City of Brotherly Love

Contrary to my review of the race on Travelete, I had a great time at this race!  The difference between this and that review is this one is about me and that one is about the race.  Any race, all races are always amazing when you are with a group of people that you love being with on a daily basis at the butt ass crack of dawn!  TriRocks Philadelphia was this past weekend and the first Team Lipstick race of the season - there is simply nothing better than racing with a team or training with a team.  If you aren't on a team, I advise you find one and get on it.  My goal for this race was to "Do Well" - I usually want to have fun and finish but I really wanted to push it and see how fast I could finish.  My goal was a 2:00 finish.

Race morning I showed up to a sea of orange - the team had a few first timers which is awesome.  I'm almost jealous of them as you never have your first race again and it's so fun, you'll always remember it - the nerves, the excitement - it was great to be apart of and enjoy their experience with them (see my first race here).  The swim was spectacular, calm, warm - at the end I was a little too warm which has never happened to me.  It is amazing how every time in the swim I think to myself, "I need to get in the pool more, I need to do more swim training - I swear I'll do more before the next race".  Does that happened to everyone or does everyone else actually train?

The bike was a little harder than I expected but still nice - it was a little boring but was way more exciting by looking for other teammates.  I found Roni but of course she was on her 2nd lap and then she sped right past me - seeing her speed is simply inspiring.  I love that she's older than I am as that gives me great hope that I can work hard to become her!  Kevin gave me a bike goal to maintain 17 MPH for the race - my watch read 16.9 average at the end, so damn close!

I've been working on my run for awhile - trying harder and harder to get faster, it's certainly not easy but when I started with a 12:00/mile pace there is really no choice but to get faster.  I can't possibly get slower.  I was hoping for a 30:00 5k but off the bike I knew that wouldn't be easy.  Since the run was out and back I was able to see every single teammate either going or coming with each hand slap it gives you a little extra pep in your step.  A little ice would have also given me a little more pep as hot water on a hot day doesn't make me all that happy.

The night before we decided Kevin would stay at his brother's house with the kids - the parking and walking to the race is such a hassle with the kids, they complain the whole time, it was hot, yadda, yadda, yadda.  I figured since the entire team was there this would be the race for the kids to stay home.  As I ran through the finish shoot (which was awesome!) I heard Charlotte screaming for me and I turned to see my whole family!  They are so damn cute (5 minutes after I finished they were whining to leave, they were hungry and then complained the entire walk back to the car...but as I finished it was cute for a whole 2 minutes!) and I have a picture to prove it:

As for my goals: finish under 2:00, actual finish time 1:55!  Goal run time was 30:00, actual was 31:38 - you win some, you lose some!  I was really happy with my overall time and can finally see that work in training it starting to show - finally.  

Can't wait for New Jersey State Triathlon in 4 weeks - time to get in the pool and do those training swims I promised myself!

Faster? Easier? Funner? Ever?

Do other people ask these questions about triathlon:

• will I ever get faster:
• will it ever get easier;
• will it ever be fun so I don't mentally quit the sport every step of the way?

I feel like I train pretty hard but I guess I really don't and I just think I do.  I'm soooo sick of being so damn slow but in today's race there was no way I could have gone any faster - just wasn't possible.  I left everything out there. So back to the question, "will I ever get faster?".  Saturday was the day of one of my favorite races Rev3 Quassy - it was an Olympic distance (.9mile swim, 25 mile bike, 10k run) and this distance is not my favorite - it's sadly too far for me.  I figured by this time in my triathlon "career" I'd love an Olympic distance - I thought this was going to be "my distance" but no such luck.  I'm going back to Sprints and once I master that distance I'll reconsider coming back up to the big boy table.  

My attitude should, in no way, take away from this race - Rev3 only does things top notch.  No detail is overlooked from check in, to transition right down to the course signs and the course itself.  The volunteers are like no other and the logistics are awesome.  The swim was spectacular, the bike and run extremely hilly.  It's just me that needs work.

Beautiful Lake Quassapaug Race Morning

I've ridden this course 3 times before yet each time I seem to be shocked by the climbing involved.  Last year this race was held during a monsoon which made the ride extremely difficult and dangerous.  This year the weather was perfect and the scenery is beautiful in Middlebury CT.  It was just hard - if it were easy everyone would do it - right??  I suppose but I'm always so hopeful it will be a little easier at some point.  I was able to take off 10:00 from last year and add 1.31 average mph but I was expecting more, aren't I always?  I was excited to see my max speed hit 40.2 - so far that's my personal high and I'm always trying to beat that, of course without trying to kill myself.

2013

1:50:07

1:50:07

13.99 mph

2012

2:01:32

2:01:32

12.68 mph

THE END of the bike!!

This run course I've never done before - in year's past I've done a relay with my sister-in-law who this year decided closing on her new house was more important than racing with me.  I figured I was ready for this 10k as I ran a 13.1 about a month ago, I did massive hill repeats with Matt his past week - how hard could it be?  Famous last words - it was beyond hard.  The only saving grace was that EVERYONE in front of me and behind me were walking and walking quite slowly.  Finally past mile 4 it was downhill so I was able to move but it was such a steep downhill that it wasn't as easy as I'd have liked it.  Of course at mile 5 we were going back up again but then I heard the announcer - the finish line was near.  After hitting mile 6 I saw my sweet Dylan and Kevin waiting for me.  They ran to the finish line with me to cross and the damn race was over!  I finished it.  They gave me the largest, heaviest finisher medal ever, a long sleeve tshirt and an ice cold, soaking wet towel.  Ahhhh I did it!  

Dylan finishing up with me

Past the finish shoot I went right to the NormaTec booth to sit in the boots for some recovery - I really need to get a pair of those.  To top off the race, the post meal is fab - hamburgers (my favorite meal of all time), hot dogs, mac and cheese, salad bar and a Pepsi machine!  

Love!

While the tempature was quite warm, the entire course was shaded so the heat wasn't a terrible issue.  The ice water and ice at the aid stations were awesome - just the landscape and the athlete that need some work.

Very large finisher medal!

Bring on Wyckoff - thankfully we're doing a relay and I"m only running but then the following week is Philadelphia Tri where I'm doing the whole thing.  But it's a Sprint - since now I'm a Sprint Kind of Girl.

Longest...to date.

Today was the day to prove to myself to myself- either you have it in you or you don't.  With the Nike Women's Half Marathon a very close 27 days away I had to see if I could go the distance, literally.  My goal was to run 9 miles today.  It's a lofty goal for me. The furthest I've ever run at one time is 8 miles.  However, that 8 miles was over a year ago and it was very slow and if I remember correctly, extremely difficult.  So today was the day - I was dressed to go straight from dropping the kids off at school, no excuses - just go.  As always the first mile sucked, the second mile sucked a little more.  Then I seemed to get into a rhythm - today I did 6:00/running-2:00/walking for the first 9 miles.  It turns out that I mapped my route wrong and went too far - something that never, ever happens.  I always underestimate and end up running less than my intended goal.  In order to hit my "must do" goal of the day I ended up going out too far which left me at my 9 mile goal, still 2 miles from home.  

4weeks to work on speed!!!

I was feeling good from mile 3-7 and then everything started to hurt: feet, knees, hips, glutes and I was starving - the ducks on the pond were starting to look appetizing and the sport beans I packed weren't cutting it.  Finally hit mile 9 and was so happy but still was 2 miles from home so I had to walk home and did it very slow.  The last 2 miles took a full 30 minutes and they were the worst of the miles.  I was so hopeful someone would drive by and pick me up - no such luck.  When I got to my front door my watch said 10.75 miles so I took another lap around the block to make it an official 11 miles.  

Now I know a few things:

1. I can finish a half marathon;
2. I won't be picked up by the sweep bus;
3. I can earn that Tiffany necklace;
4. I need to work on speed and pick up my pace;
5. I can run my own pace, my own race and feel great about it;
6. I need a new goal since my goal up until today was to finish before sweep bus picked me up and earn the necklace!

What will this year's necklace look like?

This isn't a feeling I have often but I'm so proud of myself - me, non-athletic-lots-of-lame-excuses-me, ran 11 miles at one time.  I walked a lot of it but I was out there for over 2:30 hours pounding the pavement and didn't stop or give up once and all that with no music or no friends to talk to - just me and the millions of dead trees of Bergen County (we have Sandy to blame for the massive amount of dead trees).  I DID IT. GO ME.

27 days until THE BIG DAY!

ATTITUDE is everything

The year of 2013 is off to a great start.  We rang in the new year with our amazing 3 kids and wonderful friends.  This morning I was able to kick off the  year with the 1st Day 5K.  I was not have been able to attend this race without the help of my friends as I was able to farm out my kids to avoid trying to find a sitter (and saving me quite a few bucks in the process!).  Today was the perfect day  for excuses: it was freezing, there was no sun, I had no friends to run with (actually went all alone - so lame) and I had no sitter.  But I'm determined to get   faster, get fitter and to keep improving athletically (I love  saying "athletically" in a sentence about myself!).  

Last year I bought the shirt on the left - I saw it on some guy at a race and went on a search for it.  I thought it was the most perfect shirt for me but then many people pointed out that a bad attitude is never going to help me reach my goals.  The old saying is, "Attitude is Everything" - that was the last time I  wore that shirt.  I vowed to change my thinking and to stop hating it.  The shirt on the right in my new shirt for 2013 and forward.  Based on my times between years - I'd say changing my attitude has made a great difference in  my pace.  Still not where I want it to be but going in the right direction.  

2012 T-Shirt vs. 2013 T-Shirt


2012 Total time-34:06 DEIHDRA MILLER Pace-11:00 (Official results)

(2012 Garmin watch results)



2013 Total time-30:11 DEIHDRA MILLER Pace-09:44 (Official results)

(2013 Garmin watch results)

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 MoonJoggers Countdown: 3.1 Miles Run/996.9 To Go

Runner. I am a Runner.

Two thousand twelve was The Year of the Run and, for the most part, it went really well.  It inspired me to push through the days I didn't want to run and complete the races that I wanted to quit.  It also helped me to complain less about the act of running, less not stopped completely.  I can honestly say that I no longer hate it - sometimes I even enjoy it.  But I didn't run as much, as far or as fast as I had hoped so next year is time to kick things up. That brings me to 2013 - which I am deeming "The Year of I AM A RUNNER".  From this day forward, I'm going to say, "I'm a runner" without missing a beat (at least I'm going to try really hard).  When someone asks me if I run I often stutter, stall, try to change the subject or say one of the following:

• not really;
• I'm so slow, I might as well walk;
• I only run bc it's part of a triathlon;
• I hate running - it seems like a waste of my time;
• No - I'm not a runner at all.

With the new year coming, I'm going to set bigger, tougher goals for myself.  To kick off the year on the right foot I've joined a few Challenges.

• Run Your A$$ Off - lose 4% of your weight in 4 weeks;
• Moon Joggers - run/walk 1000 miles in the year 2013.

I've also set up my triathlon/run schedule for the year and it's looking fun, fun, fun with lots of work to do to accomplish.  Now only 3 days until January 1st...bring it on.

The Facebook Effect

This past month I've heard these things said to me:

• "that was before you were an athlete";
• "you're a marathoner, right?";
• "how do you fit in working out every single day?";
• "I wish I could workout as much as you do";

I attribute all of these comments to something I'm calling, "The Facebook Effect".  It's sort of like having a PR person for your personal life but instead of paying someone, it's just me talking about me (what else is there to talk about anyway?).  I find it really funny bc none of those statements are true - I've never said they were but people assume things bc I am constantly posting things on Facebook and on this blog about races.  The truth is that I only write about them bc I could not be more shocked at myself for doing any of them.  I talk about them bc I just can't believe it's actually me, actually doing them.

Never have I been an athlete, athletic, in shape or cared about any of those things.  I've always longed to be skinny, like my friends (I tend to only have really skinny, really pretty friends for some really dumb reason - I'm looking for some fat, ugly friends if you know of any I can interview).  Just to back up a bit - I played field hockey from 7th - 12th grade but after 9th grade I was basically just-on-the-team.  The younger girls were 100 times better than I could ever be and since I've always believed in, "I'd rather quit than fail" theory on life - I just quit trying and let them take over.  I sat on the bench for most of my field hockey career and was fine with that.  I didn't fight for a spot, didn't work hard, didn't work at all.  I liked the uniform (cutest plaid kilt - what's not to like?), liked hanging out with my friends with on the team and it got me an extra study hall for the entire semester (some really dumb rule that if you played a sport, you were given an extra study hall in place of gym).  But an athlete - NEVER.  Someone that tried to be better - NEVER.  A runner - NOT IN A BILLION YEARS.  Flash forward to now and I really do try.  I have a lot more downs than ups, I'm extremely hard on myself bc I know I could try harder, give more and get faster but life gets in the way and sometimes you have to go on a field trip and skip a workout.  And to be really honest, sometimes I need a manicure and it's between a run and a manicure - the hand massage wins every time.  

I truly love watching my kids love something athletic and getting better and better at it with each try.

This is my darling 10 year old that kicked my butt in this weekend's 5k - his pace 8:55/mile, my pace 10:17/mile.

No matter how many times I try to tell people the truth they think I'm being humble - I assure you, I'm not.  I can say I'm a TRIATHLETE, perhaps even a RUNNER.  But I can say that I try really hard.  I love triathlon, I love racing, I do not love the training, I love the gear, the magazines, I love talking about it, writing about it and meeting other people with the same love of the sport.  But be sured - I'm not good, I'm not fast, I don't ever podium.  I do all I can do not come in DFL (dead fucking last).  However, bc of Facebook and Blogger I get to paint myself in any light I wish and since my dream is to be an All-Star Triathlete that's the what I paint myself to be.  It's a nice life and it's great to write whatever I want about myself.  So keep assuming I'm a rockstar - it's great for my ego.

This is how I wish to think of myself while I'm racing!

The Cupcake Classic & Hamilton 5K

Making them run a 5k brings me great joy!

Sunday was the 4th Annual Hamilton 5k to raise funds for a local elementary school.  The weather was perfect for a run, cloudy and in the 50s.  I've never done this race because, as I've said before, I used to refuse to do local races for fear my local friends, neighbors would find out that I was a fraud.  But I have finally let that go and it turns out to have been a pretty great idea.  My sister decided to join us for the run with my 2 sons Dylan (10) & Maddox (9) along with our favorite friends Jack & Joel.  The amazing, Nicole Redmond, "volunteered" to keep Charlotte for the race so no one had to "deal" with her while we were running.  Running with Wendy was awesome (just don't tell her, I'll never admit it).  She asked what my PR was and what my goal was - my goal was to run a 5k under 30:00.  My last one I came close at 30:59 but knew I could have done better had I not stayed with Dylan at the beginning which slowed me down.  That's right - I just blamed my 10 year old son for slowing me down - I'll use any excuse I can get my hands on.  Telling Wendy my goal was either the best idea or the worst (hindsight is always 20/20).  We were cruising along - too fast for me but it wasn't unbearable.  She's way faster than me and I told her to go ahead but she insisted on staying with me as she had no goal for this race.  At the mile 2 water station I was hurting and dying of thirst.  I said, "I need to stop for water".  NO WAY - you are NOT stopping bc then you won't PR this race.  Again, not sure telling her was a good idea at the time.  But I listened knowing that at the end I'd be happy I did.  It was "only" one mile left but a long mile at that.  We got to 2.5 miles and she says, "OK now we're going to kick it" - sadly sister sledge, I AM kicking it.  I was giving it all I had - if it had been up to me I'd still be at the Mile 2 water station.  Then I turned into the parking lot and saw the clock 28:15 and I knew I had no only beat my goal time but crushed it by over a minute.  Then I kicked up as fast as I could for an official finish time of 28:51.  I was over the moon but hurting badly. 

Throughout the entire race we were waiting to see the boys on the side of the road crying, breathing heavy, crawling etc but we never saw them until the end.  They also killed it.  Not only did they kill their own PR times but they beat me by a lot - they are usually my excuse to go slow.  Dylan told me that excuse was now out the window - don't you just love kids?  They are so great.

The Boys!

We are all experiencing some leg pain today.  Yesterday the boys were pretty much wiped out since after the 5k they both had a football game to play, which nearly caused them to be punished until the end of time but once we got to the game they were fine (that's a story for a parenting blog that is too boring to even explain).
  

Wendy, Deihdra, Dylan, Jack, Maddox, Joel

This 5k coincides with the Virtual Cupcake Classic and I was able 
to wear this awesome shirt to the race.  You are supposed to eat cupcakes after the race but we were in such a whirlwind after that we never got to it.  We made up for it today - after school the 3 of us enjoyed these amazing red velvet cupcakes in honor of our awesome day yesterday.  

Let them eat CUPCAKES!

Let them eat CUPCAKES!

Thank you greatly to my beloved sister, Wendy, for pushing me beyond my comfort level.  To Nicole for housing Charlotte even after the race, Liat for being the best "holder of shit" there is.  To Holly for putting on a great event for me to PR.  To Run with Jess for the best tshirt which offered up many great comments.  And for my boys - nothing makes me happier than seeing my kids enjoy sport and working hard to achieve their goals (even when I told them their goals were insane - they proved me wrong).

Dylan Miller-Jones

M

10

Glen Rock

27:10.14

8:45

Maddox Miller-Jones

M

9

Glen Rock

28:18.25

9:07

Deihdra Miller

F

38

Glen Rock

28:51.68

9:18